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My Oh My!!! When you have a demanding career and ever developing aspirations……….its sometimes hard to keep up with it all.   With a major project simmering down (though others are on the horizon); my attentions are coming back to one of the things I love to do most…..WRITE.   I am determined to ensure that my blog page lives on…..in fact….I will also be beginning a joint venture with a business partner which will include a fun yet insightful blog page of its own.

I plan to share what I have learned or am learning about society, myself, people, groups and organizations.  Though I will not dive deeply into these areas at the present moment, I feel the need to begin.  Soooooo, I ask myself “what is present for me right now? In response, I will share a truism that we all know or come to know in life….those who claim to love you most are often the ones who hurt/disappoint you the worst.  Their promises, unkept.  Their love, unseen.  Their presence in your life, nowhere in sight.  It is this lesson that is one of the most difficult to digest, yet….a time comes when you must swallow the reality and move forward. Truly, it is those who make the mistake of forsaking you that will suffer in the long run…….regret is an ugly thing.   Either way, it is not for you to punish….rather learn, grow and forgive.

What’s missing?

You still peeking?

Every now and again, I feel as though this life…my life…is missing something essential.  It is not that I am unhappy, or that I am struggling.  I am actually quite fortunate as a single mom in that regard.  I have a great career, 4 beautiful teenagers, fantastic family and friends, a place of my own, a nice car, I can write, sing, dance, I have been to some wonderful places.  Life is not perfect, however; it is satisfying. 

Even still, I have these moments where I experience what can only be described as an empty space.  I feel like there is an essential element that is missing that would make me feel more complete.

Perhaps, I am in love with my fantasies. My imagination sometimes has me caught up in the rapture of possibilities.  What could be? What should be? What can be? and what cannot be.  Perhaps, there is someone reading this short blog right now…….feeling the same way that I do.   Wondering what is missing? or “Knowing” what is missing with no clue of how to attain it.

The quandary is figuring out what to do, if anything.

Now….I’m a Master!!! :)

After a little over two years completing an Executive Master’s Program at American University/NTL (one of the top 10 schools in the nation for this concentration), I have received a Master’s of Science in Organization Development.  Shortly after I took “the Big Walk” on Mother’s Day,  one of my son’s posted on Facebook “My mom just got her Masters, now I’ll never hear the end of it about college!”…..and he was SOOOO right.

Now, it is time to do something with my education. On the horizon is the realization of Boundaries Unknown Consulting, along with a few other ventures.  Stay tuned…..things are going to get interesting!!

Need a “Vacation FROM Vacation”?

The cute and simple beach look

If you are in my age range (not saying I am old, just not in my twenties anymore), have a demanding career, perhaps have children and so on; you MUST know what I am feeling right now. 

I just returned from a week long vacation in Myrtle Beach.  I was thrilled to be able to spend this time with my 4 teenagers since the last few spring breaks have been filled with my pursuit to complete a Master’s Program.  We had a oceanfront condo which allowed that breath-taking view of the ocean that I love so much.  We checked out a few Ripley’s sites (the museum, moving theatre, etc.), spent time on the beach, at the pool, in restaurants, Alligator cove, the malls (of course).

Guess who needs a “vacation FROM vacation”?  I love my teenagers, however; vacations with them require some work.  You are still managing their personal dynamics, worried about doing things that will please them all and doing lots of running to and fro.  Being a single parent has me being the one to do it all. 🙂  I have been blessed to be able to provide my kids with quality recreation.

Now, Mommy needs a vacation of her own.

I can only be ME

Today, I’m thinking back to a time in my life when I was constantly sacrificing my authentic self to please others. 

I can only be ME

The people in our lives tend to have these ready-made scripts for us and they expect for us to play our roles without fail.  We are not necessarily provided with these scripts upfront to study and hence have the opportunity to choose if we want to be this character.  However; those around us obviously are expecting for us to “know” and to behave accordingly. 

 It matters little if this character truly represents who you are as a person, your authentic self. Only that you convince others that it is.  There is minimal gratification for these life actors (such as I was for so long) because unlike professional actors, you are not allowed to step out of that character without being met with some sort of punishment.

I gave myself permission years ago to burn the scripts and be me.  I realize that there are parts of me that some will love and others may loathe. Not everyone will agree with my opinion. Some will share my values/beliefs and others will struggle to understand my point of view. Some will like my hair, my dress, the way I speak and others will prefer that I change it.  Some will want me to make the choice that he/she feels is right and instead of what I feel in my heart is right.  And that’s all good. It will always be that way. 

What is important is that you know who you are and that you are comfortable with the person staring back at you in the mirror.  Toss the script and live!!